Freud had a lot to say about the dynamic between a mother and her daughter, notably a theory he liked to called the Electra complex—which I think is a bummer, to say the least. Luckily, there are counter ideas rooted in love rather than competition we can also look to, like that of parenting expert Dr. Shefali. Her take on one of life’s most impactful relationships? “My child isn’t an idea, an expectation, or a fantasy nor my reflection or legacy. … My child is here to fumble, stumble, try, and cry, learn and mess up, fail and try again,” she’s said. “My task is to step aside, stay in infinite possibility, heal my own wounds, fill my own bucket, and let my child fly.” There’s always pop culture’s to-the-point philosophy on empowered daughters: She got it from her mama.
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